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Free Course: Self-Care 101

It wasn’t until I was wheels up and exhaled that I realized how desperately I needed a break. Traveling for me is a form of self-care. It gives me oxygen. It ignites my curiosity again and allows me to explore my passion for all things healthy, fashion, and food in other cultures. For several years now I’ve gone without real good quality vacations while I was studying towards my Masters. Meaning I may be traveling but I am working at the same time. I’m determined and thankfully have more support to take a REAL moment to breathe again before reaching a breaking point. If you are in need of TLC, find a way to say YES to your self-care and do something for you that makes your heart sing today.

PS Before I left for vacay I created a self-paced FREE Self-Care 101 course that includes a lecture I gave a few months back. It ain’t self-care as you think of it – I address it from a holistic perspective.  Feel free to sign up and share the love with someone you know needs it.  Tchau for now! XO    

FREE Self-Care 101 Class

Healthy Living in a Toxic World – Episode 7: Simple Ways to Relieve Stress

In this episode, I speak with Alice Maher, a certified holistic health counselor who has over twenty years of experience working with clients on stress management.

We discuss:

  • Habits you can incorporate to reduce stress
  • Diseases and conditions that can be bought on from excess stress
  • What is stress?
  • Common traits of people who are stressed out
  • How Ayurveda can help manage your nutritional needs
  • The connection between stress and diet

& More! Tune in and don’t forget to share!

Healthy Living in a Toxic World – Episode 4: Effective Exercise

In this episode of Healthy Living in a Toxic World, I talked to fitness expert and personal trainer Mocha Lee about ways to make sure we get the most from our workouts and why exercise is essential for overall health.

We discuss:

  • The components of a great workout
  • How to get better results when we hit a plateau
  • The importance of proper form
  • How to overcome common obstacles to to getting regular exercise
  • Parameters to know if you are under-exercising or over-exercising

& More! Tune in and don’t forget to share!

Podcast Ep 4: Effective Exercise

Episode 4 of Healthy Living in a Toxic World is live! This week I talk to personal Trainer and former body builder Mocha Lee about all things fitness. We get into how to to find variety in your workouts, and why women should really not be scared of building muscle mass. If you are looking to take your fitness to the next level in 2019 I recommend you give this show a listen.

It’s still the first month of the year, when everyone makes that gym rush. If you are getting bored with your workout already, I recommend you find movement that you love. Remember the gym is not the only place for you to get some physical movement. If you need some ideas, check out this past post on Reframing Exercise.

To listen to the full conversation, subscribe to the podcast on Itunes, Spotify, or Google Play. Links below 🙂  -XO Esosa E, MS AKA Raw Girl

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Healthy Living in a Toxic World – Episode 3: The Power of Adequate Sleep

In this episode of Healthy Living in a Toxic World, we talked to Dr. James Maas, author of the NY Times Best Selling book Power Sleep who has been researching sleep for over twenty years. In this episode Dr. Maas offers up tips for why sleep is essential for our energy, overall health, and optimal performance.

In this episode we discuss:

  • Is it a good idea to take naps?
  • How sleeping plays a role in our success
  • The connection between sleep and weight loss
  • What diseases can be avoided by getting a good nights sleep
  • What is REM sleep?
  • How sleep affects our performance in work and life in general

& More! Tune in and don’t forget to share!

5 Ways Toxic Work Environments Can Damage Your Health

 

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Finding work that you love and are passionate about seems easy, until you discover that even if you do find it, in the professional world, you may still have to navigate work environments that can be extremely toxic. Unfortunately, there are many people in positions of power in professional environments who use their position to abuse, shame, belittle, and micromanage their employees. The worst kinds of bosses, can terrorize their team, leaving them in a state of fear twenty-four seven. It is really important to take stock of your work environment and really assess if it is doing more harm than good to your peace of mind. If you are in a toxic environment remember that you can either choose to stay, or choose to plan your transition. But it is a choice, and you do have the power to find an environment that nurtures your professional growth and allows for peace of mind. Below are some ways that toxic environments can damage your health. If you are wrapping up this year and any of these points sounds familiar, you may need to start planning your glorious exit to a healthier work environment for 2019! -XO Raw Girl 

Depletion of adrenal hormones or lead to stress related diseases. Unfortunately, many people when faced with environments, co-workers, or bosses that make their daily work extremely difficult choose to stay in those situations for years, only to later find that they have gained weight, have hypertension, or other serious chronic health conditions. After staying in a situation where there is repeated stress, your body is eventually going to try to get your attention by producing dis-ease. This is why it is extremely important to note how toxic environments can slowly erode your health, and take immediate precautions if you believe your situation warrants it.

Create Addictions to Negative Emotional States. Over time, if you stay in a toxic work environment you may get addicted to having a bad day. Do you notice that you are always complaining, grumpy, on edge, and nothing seems to be able to snap you out of it? This may mean that over time after repeated experiences that were unpleasant, your mood has now become a personality trait. How do we change this? Well of course you can start looking for other work and planning your exit, but you can also do inner work that slowly changes how you relate to your work environment. This means spending quality time each day with some of mindfulness practice or meditation. Remember you cannot control what happens to you, but you can control whether you respond or react. Mindfulness starts to help us respond and create new ways of looking at the world around us with increased empathy.

Can contribute to a feeling of apathy or paralysis. There’s almost nothing worse than apathy, or that feeling that negative experiences in an environment have literally sucked away any desire you have to contribute. The worst kinds of toxic work environments are the kind that reward subpar behavior and push back against innovators, or employees who want to make positive changes and shake up the status quo. In any high growth and dynamic company culture, usually the opposite is the same, innovators are given the opportunity to flourish, and there are clear and integrated rewards for employees who go above and beyond the call of duty.

Toxic environments can normalize shame and erode self esteem. Some supervisors consciously or unconsciously make statements that undermine your worth as an employee or a human being. Perhaps your boss tries to make you feel bad for requesting pay that is commensurate with your experience, or they consistently make passive aggressive comments about your performance that leaves you edge and never sure about where you stand with the company. If you are in a situation like this, do yourself a huge favor and run for the hills. After coming up with a suitable game plan of course. This kind of management can do real insidious damage because if you stay long enough your confidence may wane, and you may begin agreeing with the statements made, or even if you survive with some measure of self-esteem you may become bitter and this can affect how you interact with others in the company.

Toxic environments tend to bleed into interpersonal relationships, take away from quality of life, and self-care time. Some toxic environments are toxic simply because they do not allow for adequate work life balance. Is your boss always dumping a pile of papers on your desk right before closing? Do you only have time on the weekends to catch up on sleep and grab groceries? Do you never see your friends, take vacations, or engage in social activities after work? You may be in a toxic work environment, or you may someone who needs to reexamine your relationship with work. There are some of us who believe that our work is our worth and the busier we are the more important we are. Not the case. Living in the land of burnout should not be badge of honor, so it’s important to make sure you are not neglecting your health, self-care, or relationships which are a part of the overall measure of a balanced healthy life. If you are in a toxic environment, setting healthy boundaries is going to be key and having difficult discussions with your superiors. Is it important to work hard yes! But to have all of your evenings taken away and no social support, eventually will cause imbalance in your personal life and health status.

10 Fundamentals of Self-Care

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One of the true markers of health is resilience, the ability to bounce back after any major or minor stressor. The regular practice of self-care to “fill your well” helps to increase your resilience and boost your overall health long term. Below are fundamentals of self-care to help you focus attention and create healthy rituals in specific dimensions of your wellness. -XO Raw Girl

  1. Proper Nutrition: Eating properly is essential to good health and spending the time to really assess what your nutritional requirements are is key. All of us are different, and it’s important to remove any foods that cause inflammation, allergens, or even mild food sensitivities. You can also spend time assessing the appropriate levels of protein, healthy fats, and carbohydrates that makes you feel at your best, and place emphasis on eating whole unprocessed foods.
  2. Water is needed by your body to function properly and to encourage proper elimination. To determine the amount of water that is adequate for you, divide your body weight in half and drink that many fluid ounces of water. For a woman weighing 140 pounds, 70 fluid ounces of water will be ideal to keep her hydrated and the metabolic processes in her body functioning optimally.There is a thing as too much water, so you can generally try not to exceed 125 fluid ounces.
  3. Sleep is the pillar of health that must be the foundation for other aspects of wellness like diet and exercise. Sleep deprivation increases our insulin resistance, influences the hormones that affect our cravings, decreases our memory recall and retention, and can decrease our alertness and motor skills while driving or at work. The sleep requirement for you is going to be unique to your body, but a good generally rule of thumb is to aim for a minimum of 7-8 hours.
  4. Mindfulness when practiced regularly can change the course of your day for the better. Taking in deep breaths brings oxygen to the whole cellular structure and relaxation skills can help you counteract the effects of prolonged or chronic stress, and also learn to respond rather than react to stressors in your environment. Some of the most accessible forms of mindfulness include: mediation, prayer, meditative walks, journaling, yoga, Tai Chi, Qi gong, and deep breathing.
  5. Time in Nature: Researchers are becoming more and more aware of the value of light on our psychological well-being. Sunshine can improve your attitude and boost your resilience. In tandem with this nature bathing has also been shown by scientific research to accelerate healing, reduce stress and anxiety, and improve mood. Even if you are in a city environment, it’s important to find ways to occasionally engage with nature whether it be exercising in a park or visiting your local Botanical Gardens.
  6. Exercise when practiced regularly helps sustain physical energy; reduce physical, mental, and emotional stress; and improves flexibility. In tandem with the aforementioned benefits it’s been proven that those who exercise are on average 10-20 years younger than their non-exercising counterparts. One study conducted at the University of Birmingham in the Institute of Inflammation and Ageing found that avid cyclists as old as 79 had healthy muscle and immune function equivalent to people 30 years younger than them who did not exercise. Researchers also reported the 79 year old subjects also looked as biologically as a group of people aged 20-36 who did not exercise.
  7. Balance: Keeping an appropriate balance of those things which are important in our lives can renew our sense of well-being. A positive attitude and outlook on life is key to maintaining balanced emotionally boosting our overall resistance. Other things you can do to promote balance is to stay vigilant of your time spent working. If you spend weeks pushing super hard at work with absolutely no rest, you will eventually burnout. Learning how to add some rest and play even in a busy season is very important for maintaining g balance.
  8. Pursuing Your Passion: One way we take care of our well-being is to pursue work and hobbies that make our hearts sing. It is essential to have engaging personal goals and objectives. The ability to accomplish our objectives provides us with a sense of accomplishment and reinforces an attitude of well-being.
  9. Sobriety: Avoiding mood altering substances especially in excess is key to emotional and physical resilience. Besides the fact that overeating processed foods, doing drugs, or drinking excessive alcohol can wreak havoc on your health, these activities also keep you from tuning into your true emotions. You cannot maintain a lasting sense of happiness if you  are constantly using substances to avoid difficult emotions that may be a signal that you need to make some changes in your life.
  10. Self-pampering is finding time to engage in activities that reduce stress or just make you feel good. This aspect of self-care is best engaging in when you have covered the aforementioned fundamentals of getting adequate sleep, water, and proper nutrition. How you choose to pamper yourself will be unique for each person but can include activities like massages, facials, manicure and pedicures, colon hydrotherapy, acupuncture, eating gourmet meals, taking extended or mini vacations and more. Find what feels luxurious to you, and schedule in regular time to splurge on yourself, because you are worth it.

References:

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The Benefits of Self-Care

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Self-care is a buzzword that is heard all too often these days. But what exactly is self-care? Upon deeper investigation it’s clear that different people have different definitions. Some see self-care as regular pampering; equivalent to the “Treat Yo’ Self” mantra from the hilarious Parks and Recreation episode. Others see self-care as attending to the basic physiological needs including water, adequate nutrition, sleep, and more. Neither is wrong, and in-fact, the core definition may lie somewhere in between the aforementioned ideas.

Even if you don’t know what self-care exactly means, there are tell-tale signs that you need some. These can include: running low on energy, dwindling enthusiasm, feeling stressed, anxious or out of balance. The simplest way to think of self-care is as time spent that “refuels your well.” For some that may mean a weekly massage, others that may mean making an effort to get baseline adequate hours of sleep each night and properly hydrate. No matter the practice, at the core of any self-love or self-care act is discipline and forming healthy habits. When we can regularly do something for ourselves to support our optimal well-being, it becomes an act of care.

Some benefits of self-care include:

  • lessened emotional reactivity
  • improved relationship skills
  • increased well-being
  • increased optimism and hope
  • better physical health management
  • improved mood
  • improved quality of life
  • decreased stress levels
  • increased ability to maintain a work-life balance

Another commonly overlooked aspect of self-care is that it’s important to think of it holistically as addressing mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual aspects of our well-being. Meaning, we may be great at physical self-care, but not regularly engage in emotional self-care which leaves us stressed or holding onto unprocessed feelings. Or we could be excellent at mental self-care by consistently challenging ourselves to learn more, take workshops, read new books, while neglecting our physical well-being by getting inadequate rest. To create a balanced self-care routine we should consider all dimensions of our wellness. Below are some examples for each dimension. -XO Raw Girl 

For mental self-care you can: discover new authors or topics of interest that excite us to begin reading, do regular mind puzzles or crosswords, watch videos or listen to podcasts that add to our knowledge, or try learning a new language. In addition to these spending time planning and dreaming out loud can be a part of mental self-care.

Physical self-care can involve getting adequate rest, engaging in exercise and movement that you love, setting aside time for rest and relaxation each week, planning pampering activities like massages or facials, and last but not least eating a balanced diet of nutrient dense but enjoyable foods.

Spiritual self-care tends to bleed out and effect every other aspect of our lives. Mindfulness activities should be at the core of spiritual self-care. Some of these include: nature bathing, praying, daily meditation, journaling, meditative walks, yoga (which can also be physical), honoring your values with activities, attending church or support groups and pursuing experiences that ignite awe and inspiration.

For emotional self-care you may need to see a therapist if struggling with life events or sudden changes, make time for close friends and family, express your emotions through a creative outlet, join a support group or prayer group, make journaling an active practice daily, and resist the urge to self-medicate and avoid emotions using food, drugs, or other substances.

Food for Thought: Using The Power of Your Mind to Heal

 

I’m a strong believer in the power of continuously challenging my mind. Whether it be reading a book, listening to an awesome podcast, or finding inspiring and informative shows on YouTube, nowadays there’s almost too much content to choose from. That’s why the cream of the crop content definitely rises to the top. The past few weeks, I have been fascinated, inspired, and motivated with the guests and interviews on Impact Theory created by Tom Bilyeu. If you are in the mood to be motivated and activated to make some real changes in your life, I highly recommend watching as many episodes of this show as you can.

The episode above, “The Power of Thought,”  I wanted to share with you, because it elaborates on some of the topics I’ve talked about recently on the blog relating to the nervous system and it’s impact on our health. Most importantly, Dr. Joe Dispenza elaborates on the power of our mind and thoughts to heal and also to create stress, habitual actions, and disease in our lives. If you are someone who feels stuck in a never ending cycle of behaviors you’d like to change, someone struggling with a stress-related condition or high stress lifestyle, or if you just want to create the most epic life ever, I highly suggest you watch this entire episode. -XO

Work Less, Thrive More: Why You Need a Day Off

backlit-beach-beautiful-227674Burnout city is a place that some people love to live. Residents of burnout city love to tell you how busy they are, can never take a call,  they complain of their epic to-do lists, long nights, and anxiety at work until…inevitably they crash, have a meltdown, or get sick which is basically the bodies’ way of saying “Slow down!” The saddest part about being a self-proclaimed busy bee is that usually the need to look and in fact be overwhelmed may actually be a coverup for deeper insecurities. Questions like: Am I enough if I don’t achieve? Will I be depressed if I don’t get promoted? Lurk beneath the surface of a seemingly can-do attitude. The other kind of busy bee is the people-pleaser. If you can never say no to other’s requests or demands on your time this may be you. Don’t worry I’m not judging.

I get it completely. We all want to look and feel important, and we need validation. However it’s really important to check yo’ self and see if that validation is coming more often than not from other people’s approval, or your own fixation with external markers of success whether it be promotions, money, or keeping up with the Insta lives you scroll through daily. Thankfully evidence has shown that cutting ourselves a little slack may actually go a long way to improving our performance on the tasks that matter the most to us.

Recently a company in New Zealand, called Perpetual Guardian, had their staff of two hundred and forty employees try out a four day work week that was studied by academics. The trial was declared a smashing success with 78% of employees citing increased work-life balance, commitment to the company, and decreased stress levels. Prior to the study only 54% of employees felt that they could balance work and their at-home duties well. Not bad huh? Sweetest part of the deal was that during the trial, employees were paid for five days of work, even though they worked for four!

After just surviving the most grueling workload I’ve ever had to carry by cranking out three months of masters coursework into one month in order to graduate early, this day off idea rings true to me. I was working so hard that I decided that I had to take a Sabbath, just one day a week to do absolutely nothing. Even though two days would have been better, the inactivity always left me refreshed and ready to charge ahead again when the week began. I know most of us do not have the luxury of getting paid for a day off, but we can actively make time to unplug and STOP glorifying burnout. You are not better because you are BUSY. We are ultimately on this earth to live, to thrive, and to share our gifts, and if we could do that in a state of presence and relaxation the world would be a better place. -Xo Raw Girl

 

References:

Roy, E. A. (2018, July 18). Work less, get more: New Zealand firm’s four-day week an ‘unmitigated success’. Retrieved July 20, 2018, from https://www.theguardian.com/world/2018/jul/19/work-less-get-more-new-zealand-firms-four-day-week-an-unmitigated-success